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If the prospect of a 21-day ‘lockdown’ is daunting for you, you are not alone. I have visions of walking around the house in a perpetual bad mood because I feel like a caged bear with a sore tooth! There is some solace in knowing that we are all in this together and that all seasons do come to an end.

In terms of managing our own emotions and thinking during this time, Positive Psychology does give us some useful strategies that can be employed on an individual basis and as a family. Positive Psychology in no way minimizes the fact that hardship is just that – hard – but it does teach us that the way in which we respond to it can determine the quality of lives in and beyond that time of difficulty.

It can be very easy to lose sight of the good things in life during stressful times, and this is normal. There are some ways in which we can foster gratitude and an awareness that all is not bad during these times.

Parents and pupils could engage in Martin Seligman’s ‘What Went Well’ exercise while sitting around the table for supper. Each family member can write down three things that went well during the course of the day, and why they went well. You can then go around the table and discuss the day’s positives and what contributed to them.

Another simple exercise is Neil Parischa’s 2-minute morning. Each family member can complete three sentences a day in a journal or notebook. These sentences could be:

I will let go of…

I am grateful for…

I want to focus on…

Understanding what is dragging us down and focusing on the things that keep us buoyant is an important skill that could help to maintain our sense of well-being.

A third way in which to maintain healthy perspective is perhaps to write a gratitude letter to someone in our lives. This could be e-mailed to a friend or family member, or could be a simple handwritten letter to someone in your household. This may help to maintain positive relationships in our homes when the walls begin to feel like they are closing in somewhat.

Developing a sense of gratitude is a proven way to develop resilience during hardship and keeping the bigger picture in view.

If boys feel that they need to speak to one of the Wellness Team, or a member of staff they trust during this time, please encourage them to do so. Members of the Wellness Team who can be contacted are:

Craig Cuyler –

Yvonne Lion-Cachet –

Father David Stansbury –

Keep well and stay safe!

Craig Cuyler

Head of Wellness